Grandparents can be a pretty special kind of magic. They’ve lived through decades of change, collected stories you’ve never heard, and—let’s be real—probably spoiled you more than once. But as life gets busier, it’s easy to fall into the habit of calling less, visiting rarely, and assuming they’ll always be there.
The truth is, being a better grandchild doesn’t take a grand gesture. It’s the small, meaningful things that make the biggest difference. Whether you’re close with your grandparents or working on reconnecting, here are some easy, thoughtful ways to show up and make that relationship stronger.
1. Call or Visit Just Because
You don’t need a reason or a holiday to reach out. A quick phone call or pop-in visit just to say “I was thinking about you” means more than you might think. You don’t have to stay for hours—a 10-minute chat to ask how their week’s going or share something funny can brighten their entire day.
2. Ask About Their Life—And Really Listen
Your grandparents have lived full lives before you were even born. Ask them about their childhood, how they met, what their first job was, or what they wish more people knew about them. Listening to their stories shows that you care—and it helps you see them as whole people, not just the ones who hand out birthday cards.
3. Share Your Life with Them, Too
Don’t just wait for them to ask questions. Tell them about your job, your classes, your friends, the random thing that made you laugh today. Even if they don’t fully understand your world, they want to feel like they’re part of it. Connection goes both ways.
4. Be Patient With Technology (and Everything Else)
If you’re helping them with their phone, computer, or TV, be patient. Yes, you might have to explain things more than once. No, it’s not always easy. But your patience goes a long way—and can help them feel more confident and independent.
5. Remember the Little Things
Their birthday. The date of an anniversary. That they love crossword puzzles or always drink tea at 3 PM. Remembering and mentioning the little things shows you pay attention. It makes them feel valued.
6. Help Without Being Asked
See a need? Fill it. Whether it’s helping carry groceries, fixing something around the house, setting up a new device, or just offering a ride to the store, small acts of kindness mean a lot—especially when they’re unexpected.
7. Send a Card, Letter, or Photo
In a world of texts and DMs, a handwritten note or printed photo feels deeply personal. It doesn’t have to be fancy. Just a little “thinking of you” note or snapshot from your weekend can be a keepsake they’ll treasure.
8. Make Time (Even When You’re Busy)
We all have full calendars, but carving out time for your grandparents—even if it’s once a month or a quick check-in—is worth it. They won’t always be here. Show up while you still can.
9. Include Them in Your Life Events
Invite them to your events, performances, graduations, or even casual dinners. If they can’t attend in person, share photos or videos. Let them celebrate your wins with you, no matter how big or small.
10. Show Love in the Way They Understand
Some grandparents grew up in a generation that didn’t say “I love you” as often—but they show it through acts of service, gifts, or food. Match their energy. Hug them. Say thank you. Tell them you love them, often and clearly. You’ll never regret saying it too much.
Final Thoughts
Being a better grandchild doesn’t mean being perfect—it means being present. It’s about showing up, showing you care, and making them feel seen and appreciated. One small gesture at a time, you’re creating memories and connection that matter—for both of you.
If you’re lucky enough to still have a grandparent in your life, don’t wait for a holiday to show them some love. Call them. Visit them. Laugh with them. And let them know just how much they mean to you.